On Changing Habits

A personal reflection on my habits that I want to discuss here is that I hang on to things too long. For just the sake of it, for the sake of analyzing the situation or something, I tend to think about a situation for too long.

Even tiny things like why some one did not take my call, get me thinking over them for a long time. This is a thing I have been trying to change for a while and have tried a lot to taking things just casually. Over time, things have become better but it wasn't easy, not at easy at all.

All of us - every single one of us - has at least one change we need to make in our lives. We know very well what change needs to take place, and we certainly know WHY we want it to come about. The WHY may be better relationships, better health, better management of time or a better future. Whatever the details, the change will be one that we know will add happiness and peace to our lives.

Seems simple enough, right? What person in his or her right mind wouldn't do whatever needed to be done to bring more happiness into their lives?

Unfortunately, there's a reason I wrote "Seems simple enough" rather than just "Simple enough." Change is hard! Funny, we always look at people around us and ask, "Why won't ____ just change?" or "Why can't ______ just stop making merry and study? He's not even trying!" Yet, when it comes to ourselves we fully recognize how difficult it is to change habits - many of which are habits of a lifetime. Habits get us in just as little as 21 days and all too often these habits have been with us for as long as 21 weeks, 21 months or even 21 years. 

Right through this ordeal I went through while changing my habit, I finally got a solution to this real hard problem.

I guess you would like to know about it. 

While I was trying to get rid of my habit of of thinking excessively, I on the contrary gave my mind another "thing" to think about obsessively. On realizing this, I decided to replace by habit with another one than just getting rid of the one I had.

The point I a trying to make here is that a part of the solution lies in battling FOR something rather than just battling AGAINST something. Focus on the positive - how wonderful you'll feel once you're standing on the winning side, how proud everyone who loves you will be of you, and how you'll be in a position, then, to help others.

This is the commitment each one of us needs to have in order to get to the other side of it.

Good luck!! :)